Can I Record My Spouse?

Is your spouse saying one thing to you and another to the judge? Will a recording help you in court? Your specific state's laws will tell you if it will.

Recording conversations, whether they are in-person discussions or phone calls, is a topic that frequently arises, especially in divorce and custody issues. It’s important to understand the laws involved in recording a spouse. Let’s look into single-party recording, its legality across different states, and its admissibility in court proceedings.

Can You Record a Phone Call Without the Other Person Knowing?

The short answer is yes, but it depends on where you live. In some states, you can legally record a phone call or in-person conversation without informing the other person, provided you are a participant in the conversation. This is known as a “one-party consent” law (or single party recording). However, in other states, all parties involved in the conversation must consent to the recording. This is known as “all-party consent.”

One-Party vs. All-Party Consent

In the United States, the federal law allows for one-party consent, which means that in federal jurisdictions, you can legally record a phone conversation if you are one of the participants in the call. However, this federal law is overridden when state laws require all-party consent.

One-Party Consent States: In these states, as long as you are part of the conversation, you can record it without needing to inform the other party. This is applicable in most states.

All-Party Consent States: In contrast, some states require that all parties involved in the conversation consent to the recording. These states include California, Connecticut, Florida, Illinois, Maryland, Massachusetts, Montana, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania, and Washington. In these jurisdictions, recording a call without the knowledge and consent of the other person is illegal.

What is an Example of One-Party Consent?

An example of one-party consent could be if you record a phone conversation with your spouse for personal documentation without informing them.

Example: Documenting Verbal Agreements or Misconduct

Imagine you are in a situation where you’re discussing terms of a verbal agreement between you and your spouse over the phone. You’ve had issues in the past where agreements were later disputed or “forgotten”. To protect yourself, you decide to record the call. In a one-party consent state, you can legally do this without informing your spouse. 

Pro Tip: If you are considering recording them, you should assume that they are recording you as well. 

What States is it Illegal to Secretly Record Someone?

In the US, the states where it is illegal to record a conversation without the consent of all parties include California, Delaware, Florida, Illinois, Maryland, Massachusetts, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania, and Washington. It’s important to check the specific laws in your state before proceeding with any recording.  Meet with an online lawyer if you are thinking about recording someone and you are unsure about whether you can use that recording as evidence. 

Understanding the Legal Challenges

In the midst of divorce, understanding your legal boundaries is crucial.  Generally speaking, one-party consent states permit the use of recordings as evidence in court.  Additionally, those states listed as all parties states sometimes allow recordings to be used as evidence under certain circumstances.   If you are facing legal questions about recordings in your state, Divorce Plus Professional Services offers a range of services to assist you. Additionally, for specific legal advice and consultation, consider scheduling a meeting with a lawyer through an online lawyer consultation. Remember, being informed and prepared can make a significant difference in how you navigate these challenges.


Whether you can legally record your spouse without their knowledge depends on the state laws and the context of the recording. Be informed about the laws in your state and consider the implications of recording someone without their consent. Contact and discuss your specific case with a lawyer to understand your rights when it comes to recording.



  1. California: California Penal Code § 632. This law makes it a crime to intentionally eavesdrop or record confidential communication without the consent of all parties involved.
  2. Connecticut: Connecticut General Statutes § 52-570d. This statute requires the consent of all parties for the recording of any telephonic communication.  **See other laws which sometimes permit one-party consent
  3. Delaware: Del. Code Ann. tit. 11, § 1335(a)(4). You may not record private conversations without the consent of all parties involved.
  4. Florida: Florida Statute § 934.03. This law prohibits the interception and disclosure of wire, oral, or electronic communications without the consent of all parties.
  5. Illinois: Illinois Compiled Statutes 720 ILCS 5/14-2. Known as the Illinois Eavesdropping Act, it requires all-party consent for recording private conversations.
  6. Maryland: Maryland Courts and Judicial Proceedings § 10-402. This statute makes it unlawful to record or intercept communication without the consent of all parties.
  7. Massachusetts: Massachusetts General Laws Chapter 272, Section 99. This law prohibits the secret recording of wire and oral communications without all-party consent.
  8. Montana: Montana Code Annotated § 45-8-213. This law requires all-party consent and also mandates an additional notice requirement in certain situations.
  9. New Hampshire: New Hampshire Revised Statutes Annotated § 570-A:2. This statute requires the consent of all parties for recording oral or telephonic communications.
  10. Pennsylvania: Pennsylvania Statutes Title 18, § 5703. This law requires all-party consent for the recording of electronic and oral communications.
  11. Washington: Revised Code of Washington § 9.73.030. This statute mandates all-party consent for recording private conversations, whether in-person or transmitted.

Note: It’s important to keep in mind that legal statutes can be subject to amendments and interpretations. For the most current and detailed legal information, it’s advisable to consult the actual statutes or a legal professional.

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