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Looking to Divorce: A Game Plan for New Beginnings

Together, let's walk through techniques for talking to your husband about divorce, acknowledging doubt, and handling resistance.
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  • Strategies for discussing divorce with your husband, emphasizing honesty and empathy.
  • Silent divorce and its negative impact on both parties.
  • Dealing with a spouse’s reluctance and tips for understanding and patience.

Divorce.

That single word is heavy with emotions — and sometimes, relief. If you’re reading this, you’re probably considering how to broach the subject with your husband or partner, about opening new doors. Whether it’s a longing for freedom or just wanting you both to be happy again; there’s no right reason, but there is a right way to do it. Take my hand and let me guide you through this journey of self-discovery and change.

Making Your Case

Convincing someone that divorce is no longer something they have control over is never easy. It’s a conversation that we all dread having but must come up sooner or later. Here are some steps on how to approach it without hurting his feelings.

Choose The Right Time

Timing is everything! For instance, if he’s had a hard day at work then the tension will not be enough in order for him to take what you say seriously. And since most of what will be said will come off as hurtful words instead of constructive criticism when tensions are high it’s best to wait until things cool down.

Mentally Prepare Yourself

Before dropping the D-word take into consideration what could happen next. Will he be enraged? Begging for another chance? Or maybe he won’t even fight back at all… Who knows? But one thing that’s certain is that it’ll leave an impact on both of you so gather your thoughts together before pushing forward!

Be Direct & Compassionate

When giving him the news try to keep things short and sweet but also make sure he understands why this decision was made in the first place by being sympathetic towards his feelings as well.

Use “I” Statements As Much As Possible

By using “I” statements instead of “You” ones can help minimize defensiveness which will get rid of any unnecessary arguments that aren’t contributing to the main point.

Prepare Yourself

Not everyone is level-headed enough to remain calm when they hear the news so be prepared for him to put up a fight. When this happens it’s important for you to remember that he too is also going through a hard time and needs your support as much as you need his.

Get a Neutral Third Party Involved

Sometimes we all need someone who can look at our relationship from an outside point of view in order to determine if things are really worth saving or not. Reach out to those professionals as soon as possible, because more often than not they’ve heard stories just like yours before.

Highlight Mutual Happiness

Remind him that the end goal here is happiness for both of you. Which means even though it might hurt now, sooner or later one of you will either find someone new or come back together!

Make it known that you want to handle the divorce in a healthy way, one that won’t lead to long term damage. This means being understanding during negotiations, considering each other’s needs and respecting each other throughout the process. By offering options to move forward together, such as with an online divorce lawyer or speaking with a divorce coach for emotional support, can go to show just how committed you are to keeping things civil.

How Silent Divorce Works: The Pre Game

Silently quitting a relationship, or “silent divorce” might be a phrase you’ve never heard before but it’s when both parties involved have emotionally separated themselves from their partner and are waiting for someone else to make the first move. It’s almost like they’re trying to let time handle the situation and hope that their relationship will die on its own. Though it may seem like a peaceful acknowledgment of their time coming to an end, this pre-divorce phase only leaves both sides stuck in limbo, holding them back from moving on.

His Grasp is Too Tight: When Your Partner Doesn’t Want To Let You Go

It’s not always easy for couples who have shared some sort of bond for so long. There could be multiple reasons why one spouse doesn’t want a divorce such as fear of change or concerns about kids getting affected by it all. If you find yourself in this situation with your partner, remember patience and understanding are key here. Keep encouraging open dialogue and if necessary invite an online divorce coach or someone similar into the conversation so that they can help guide the both of you through these tough emotions.

The Polite Approach: How To Ask Nicely

No matter what type of circumstances cause your marriage to come tumbling down, there’s no reason why asking for a divorce shouldn’t be approached politely and respectfully. It’s all about expressing what you know is true while still keeping in mind how the other person feels too.. To start off right it is highly recommended that you express the good times you’ve had with them and be clear for your decision without pointing fingers. If this conversation is still difficult no need to worry, a coach can help build strategies for a respectful approach.

The First Step: Setting The Tone

Coming to the conclusion that you want a divorce isn’t just what will cause it. In fact, there are many steps you have to take in order to complete the process. The first one being educate yourself about the subject so that you know what you’re doing. You need understand your rights as well as legal requirements of your state so that later on down the line you won’t get caught in any surprises. It’s always recommended to have as much knowledge as possible especially when it comes to divorces because it’s quite a heavy case.

The Final Act

Starting a divorce is definitely tough but with strength and understanding it could be seen as a new beginning. By navigating through all of these complex emotions and reaching an understanding with each other is like coming across another chapter in life and how to end it gracefully without any harm done. However, if professional services are needed whether it be legal advice or emotional guidance don’t fret over seeking them out because knowing when someone else’s expertise should kick in isn’t a sign of weakness, but one of empowerment..

Know this as you begin: You are not alone. There are people and resources waiting to support you as you go through this process of change. Embrace it, be excited for the doors that will open in the next chapter of your life.

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